Are you in a long-distance relationship or what we called the LDR? Does your partner away from you and you are feeling alone and lonely? LDR is really hard, one says it’s like you don’t have someone taking care of you especially when the time comes that you need a partner beside you to comfort you and give you strength. Other says what is the use of having a partner if he or she is not present in the time that you needed him/her the most, in time that you need someone to hug you and tell you that everything will be ok. It would be better if you don’t have a partner at all. But who really wanted to be in a Long-Distance Relationship? No one, if you have a choice you don’t want to be in this kind of relationship.
What is the reason why a couple needs to leave each other?
The common reason of LDR is that you both consider your future, right? Your partner didn’t leave you without knowing what’s her/his reason from leaving you. You both wanted to have a comfortable life in the future. The question is Does it really worth it? Maybe, but if its turn out to what you both didn’t expect, it is still worth it? Many relationships failed because they are not present at each other sides, they are longing for each other in a long period of time. “ Kung ang couple nga na magkasama naghihiwalay, what more yung dalawang taong malayo sa isa’t isa”.
Many possibilities and struggles will be going to arise for the lovers who are separated from each other. Your love towards to each other may be gone because of lack of physical contact, loving someone who is always by your side have a possibility to occur, and that’s the reason cheating happens most of the time.
Yes, you called each other, actually not just by calling only, most of the time you talk on cam where you can see each other (video call) because of a new technology talking to each other becomes easy even you are both miles away from each other.
But there is always a but, there is always doubt to the loyalty of each other because you can’t actually see the whole reality, what is behind the curtain in your room, who is behind you while you are talking because you cannot actually see, right? Suspicion, distrust, jealousy, whatever you called it. It’s really happened and you cannot avoid it from happening, it's happening even for the couple who are together. Until such time you both realize leaving each other side didn’t serve the purpose as to what you both planned, and conclude that it’s not worth to be apart. It’s better if stay together even life is not that good at all, at least you still together.
Are you really not meant for each other?
Some say if the relationship turns outs into nothing and lead to a separation, maybe you both not deserve each other and maybe someone is there waiting for you to love you and take care of you more than anyone else. If the relationship failed, the conclusion is that you are not meant for each other. Is it true? Or you just don’t want to accept the fact that you made a mistake, maybe you take the situation for granted and not do your best to stay the faith of your partner in you.
But not all LDR comes to nothing, not all went to a separation, some became successful and still together up to now and still counting. What’s the secret? Just LOVE and TRUST. If you really love your partner you don’t need anyone else, you will understand every moment he/she is not at your side and you will give your faith in him and love him/her 100%, meaning you don’t need to ask, because you already know the answer, you don’t need an explanation because your heart already understand and you don’t need to be at her/his side because you always feel her/his presence by your side.
How Long-Distance Relationship will be last for long?
Just simple focus on your relationship, focus on each other. Set your mind to the benefit of your plan and think that is just for a while and it will end soon. Continue to regular communication, make your conversation lively as if you are in front of each other, always make a surprise every time you’re going to talk to each other, always be honest and be sure to make your partner feel secured to your relationship by means of showing your love and concern to him/her every day. If the problem and doubt arises, tell your partner about it in a nice way so that you can talk about it as early as possible and make a solution right away. Lastly, have faith in your partner with all your heart and soul as if you entrust your whole life to him/her.
For all the couples that in a Long Distance Relationship, don’t give up. FIGHTING!
Be willing to share your blessings. The only riches that last are the ones that are given away. David Khalil